The Self-Love Promise Ceremony

The ritual I am about to share with you is a sacred process you can use anytime

you desire make a promise with yourself.

Act 1: Get Present.

Ideally, when taking a promise you want to put yourself in a space you can soak in the words and feel this commitment in your heart. A quiet and beautiful space is always nice, candles and low lights or outside in nature. Being with yourself, present, is required. And of course, completely unplugged without electronic devices or gadgets (except those needed to create music) goes without saying. Clearing space for yourself physically, emotionally and energetically and creating beauty in your surroundings sets a sacred tone, fitting for such an event such as making a promise to yourself. You wouldn’t make a promise to your best friend while checking emails or helping your kids with homework. No, you’d be present for them.  Give yourself the same respect. And of course, if you need to make a self-love promise pronto-like while in an airplane, at a restaurant or in the car, go for it. While being by yourself is preferred, if you’re in a public space or with other people, simply create your own private Idaho, close your eyes, take a breath and imagine everyone else disappearing. Then imagine yourself sitting with yourself in your favorite place in the world. This will get you present, and then you can continue.

 

Act 2: Pronounce the Promise.

Say the words as written out loud being as present as you can, allowing yourself to hear and feel the words as they come out of your mouth and vibrate through your body. Notice and reflect as you say the words, “Do I mean them, really?” As in, “Yes, I want to make this promise. I can make this promise. But most importantly, while I may not know what this vow entails just yet, I am willing.”  Empty word calories won’t do, but willingness will.

Act 3:  Pick Your Words.

Because this is your promise, the words have to feel right for you. Always test the words out for yourself. First, write the promise down as is on a piece of paper. Then say the promise out loud a few times, changing the words as feels right for you. Cross out words, put in new ones, whatever you need to get these words jiving on your love vibration. Once you have the right love words for you, proceed. (Note for you perfectionists: Do not obsess over finding the exact ‘right’ word. ‘Right’ in this case means “in alignment or in resonance with love.” You’ll know the ‘right’ words when they feel good and strong in your heart. This is not a mental exercise or anything that you can do wrong. Trust yourself, tune into love, and have fun! For example, for the vow of I Love ME, any of these vows could be powerful:

I promise to fall madly in love with myself, every day for the rest of my life.

From this moment forward I promise to love myself, always.

I promise to love myself, more and always for the rest of my days.

 

Act 4: Make Your Promise Pretty.

Beauty is a sign of self-love, so unless you are in an airport in need of an emergency self-love promise and all that’s handy is a cocktail napkin, treat yourself well, and write this promise pretty – put it in your journal, on a notecard, even a post it note (especially if it’s pink, green or yellow, the three of the colors of self-love). Write the promise in a manner in which you’d like to visit it again. Seeing a promise visually over and over seeps it deeper into your cells.

Act 5: Seal the Deal – Proclaim Your Promise.

How you take a promise has a lot to do with how successful you will be at keeping it, so do not skip this step. Do treat this step as a sacred promise with your heart and soul. Put yourself into a “promise state of mind” by creating a quiet space where you can be with yourself. Great places include in front of a mirror so you can see your face, or laying down or sitting somewhere that feels super comfy and intimate.

If you are in front of a mirror, keep your eyes open and look into your eyes while you repeat the promise 3x. Otherwise close your eyes, put your hand on your heart and repeat, “I promise to fall in love myself, no matter what” (or whatever your unique promise is) three times. Vows with yourself are always repeated three times – it’s a rule I learned from one of my spiritual teachers, it’s one of those rules without explanation. And it works, you’ll just have to trust me on this one.

Act 6: Soak in the Promise.

            Congratulations! You just made one of the most important promises to one of the most important people in your life – you! Now it’s time to let this vow soak in – take a bath, a nap, a walk or an evening out with yourself and wear this self-love promise like a locket around your neck with your beautiful picture inside. Too often we move on from one thing to another without letting what we’ve just done settle and soak in. It is a great act of self-love to give yourself the space to bask in the love you have just promised to yourself.

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The Self-Love Promise Ceremony

The ritual I am about to share with you is a sacred process you can use anytime

you desire make a promise with yourself.

Act 1: Get Present.

Ideally, when taking a promise you want to put yourself in a space you can soak in the words and feel this commitment in your heart. A quiet and beautiful space is always nice, candles and low lights or outside in nature. Being with yourself, present, is required. And of course, completely unplugged without electronic devices or gadgets (except those needed to create music) goes without saying. Clearing space for yourself physically, emotionally and energetically and creating beauty in your surroundings sets a sacred tone, fitting for such an event such as making a promise to yourself. You wouldn’t make a promise to your best friend while checking emails or helping your kids with homework. No, you’d be present for them.  Give yourself the same respect. And of course, if you need to make a self-love promise pronto-like while in an airplane, at a restaurant or in the car, go for it. While being by yourself is preferred, if you’re in a public space or with other people, simply create your own private Idaho, close your eyes, take a breath and imagine everyone else disappearing. Then imagine yourself sitting with yourself in your favorite place in the world. This will get you present, and then you can continue.

 

Act 2: Pronounce the Promise.

Say the words as written out loud being as present as you can, allowing yourself to hear and feel the words as they come out of your mouth and vibrate through your body. Notice and reflect as you say the words, “Do I mean them, really?” As in, “Yes, I want to make this promise. I can make this promise. But most importantly, while I may not know what this vow entails just yet, I am willing.”  Empty word calories won’t do, but willingness will.

Act 3:  Pick Your Words.

Because this is your promise, the words have to feel right for you. Always test the words out for yourself. First, write the promise down as is on a piece of paper. Then say the promise out loud a few times, changing the words as feels right for you. Cross out words, put in new ones, whatever you need to get these words jiving on your love vibration. Once you have the right love words for you, proceed. (Note for you perfectionists: Do not obsess over finding the exact ‘right’ word. ‘Right’ in this case means “in alignment or in resonance with love.” You’ll know the ‘right’ words when they feel good and strong in your heart. This is not a mental exercise or anything that you can do wrong. Trust yourself, tune into love, and have fun! For example, for the vow of I Love ME, any of these vows could be powerful:

I promise to fall madly in love with myself, every day for the rest of my life.

From this moment forward I promise to love myself, always.

I promise to love myself, more and always for the rest of my days.

 

Act 4: Make Your Promise Pretty.

Beauty is a sign of self-love, so unless you are in an airport in need of an emergency self-love promise and all that’s handy is a cocktail napkin, treat yourself well, and write this promise pretty – put it in your journal, on a notecard, even a post it note (especially if it’s pink, green or yellow, the three of the colors of self-love). Write the promise in a manner in which you’d like to visit it again. Seeing a promise visually over and over seeps it deeper into your cells.

Act 5: Seal the Deal – Proclaim Your Promise.

How you take a promise has a lot to do with how successful you will be at keeping it, so do not skip this step. Do treat this step as a sacred promise with your heart and soul. Put yourself into a “promise state of mind” by creating a quiet space where you can be with yourself. Great places include in front of a mirror so you can see your face, or laying down or sitting somewhere that feels super comfy and intimate.

If you are in front of a mirror, keep your eyes open and look into your eyes while you repeat the promise 3x. Otherwise close your eyes, put your hand on your heart and repeat, “I promise to fall in love myself, no matter what” (or whatever your unique promise is) three times. Vows with yourself are always repeated three times – it’s a rule I learned from one of my spiritual teachers, it’s one of those rules without explanation. And it works, you’ll just have to trust me on this one.

Act 6: Soak in the Promise.

            Congratulations! You just made one of the most important promises to one of the most important people in your life – you! Now it’s time to let this vow soak in – take a bath, a nap, a walk or an evening out with yourself and wear this self-love promise like a locket around your neck with your beautiful picture inside. Too often we move on from one thing to another without letting what we’ve just done settle and soak in. It is a great act of self-love to give yourself the space to bask in the love you have just promised to yourself.

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